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Sandra Ann Miller's avatar

See you/hear you! I also grew up in a shouting house, and the one who could yell the loudest the longest won. It took a while to break that habit (though it never goes away). But when something hits wrong and I'm in a sensitive space, oof. That whole Sam Jackson Pulp Fiction speech of furious anger...that's just the start. And, yes, at times is does feel good. A definite release. The only thing we can do is be patient with ourselves. Or, that's what I'm trying. xo

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Anna Rosenblum Palmer's avatar

I love the Samuel Jackson reference. I can always use the reminder to be patient. Thank you for that.

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Rosenblum, Nancy L.'s avatar

Well, I have had the same surprised/baffled response from Robert. You're right that some deep breaths work (sometimews) as a reminder that the f...ing microwave burning the food is not the end of the world. Of course, reminders don't always work....as you say, easier to scream.

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Kim Van Bruggen's avatar

Oh man. I relate to you on this one. On so many levels. My anger explosions were something to behold. And did they ever feel good. For the milliseconds during and after. Thanks for sharing.

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Anna Rosenblum Palmer's avatar

I love your use of the past tense. Does this mean you have made some changes to your expression style?

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Kim Van Bruggen's avatar

Yes, absolutely. I'm not sure if it's age, wisdom, therapy, or all of the above, but I don't feel the rage and anger. Not on the unhealthy level at any rate. I look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. How much energy it took and how many people it hurt. Now I can get that release through other means. Walking, swimming, ocean dips, riding my bike, writing, yoga.

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